Setting Goals – Insight From Genesis Games of Healing Connections
Setting goals is a weird thing. They’re supposed to be SMART, BHAG, fit into your calendar, results-oriented, carry your strategy, your dream, your vision, your fantasies your wonderland, your last will and testament, durable and medical power of attorneys, pre-nup and divorce decree, and your eulogy all in one. In summary, they are a little ridiculous. But setting a goal is the framework of every service professional or entrepreneur and business out there. So it’s not like you can just ignore it. Today we’re going to check in with our friend, Genesis Games on how she helps people get to their goals, specifically, how does she help couples to agree on and ultimately get to their goals? Here is an edited transcript of some of our conversations with Genesis. Here’s what Genesis has to say about helping couples identify and achieve goals together: “ I would say that the first handful of sessions that I have with my couples is really trying to define {their} goals, and it’s not always very clear. They’re not always on the same page as each other which is why they may need help. Maybe it’s one of the things they need help and the other one doesn’t, so definitely those first few sessions are really about getting clear about what the problem is, getting them to really speak openly about what’s going on. I don’t think we always have that insight, we know that there’s something that’s off, but we might not always be able to pinpoint it, so the first step, is gaining clarity around what’s wrong, what needs to be fixed, what can be improved….once we are clear about that we need to able to express that to the other person in a way that they can really listen to what we have to say, they can really take it in, they don’t become defensive. After we have the clarity and after we’re able to communicate what the problem is, then it’s thinking of what we want our end goal to be, and then working backwards with smaller goals that will eventually get us to that end goal… The vision is a big picture that we’re working towards, we want to work backwards from there to create smaller goals to help us get there.” What Genesis has to say here is fantastic. Big goals, big hairy goals, big hairy audacious goals. Smart goals. Specific goals. Specific and measurable goals. Specific and measurable goals that are actionable. OH MY GOSH. Cut it out. It’s too much. Break all of this down into an end vision and small simple steps that will get you there. Keep your eyes on the individual steps and work backwards from your vision and you’ll achieve your goals. It’s that simple. Not smart, not bhag, not the longest mouthful of words and acronyms possible. If you need more help with this, keep an eye out for our private Facebook group launching soon where we help you develop and maintain a Be RICH mindset. Rise To Mastery Inspire Greatness Celebrate Knowledge Help Others You may also want to take a look at our course, Time Mastery With Science where we discuss having the best mindset to achieve your goals and one of the best of many small steps you can take – getting your day and time organized! Need even more help with accountability, we offer 2 on 1 coaching for service-based professionals and entrepreneurs. We are hyper focused on improving presentation and positioning, powering up your productivity and supercharging your sales. If you want to bring your Games (yep I did it again) to the next level you’ll want to check us out! My final takeaway from our interview with Genesis: She is one smart human. For more from Genesis and our conversation together check out our podcast here: G’s to a Great relationship: Goodness, Goals and Genesis Games ~ Episode 22 Genesis Games is a bilingual psychotherapist in Miami, working with clients in all of Florida. She is both in English and Spanish-speaking working with college students and young adults. Genesis helps them to adjust to life transitions, navigate the dating world, manage relationship issues and setting boundaries for family and friendships. Gensis also works with individuals who have endured heartbreak and helps them make space for the grief and thrive, and then last, she’s a Gottman trained couples therapist and works with couples through all the stages of their relationship. Genesis teaches couples how to reconnect and heal attachment trauma. I for one wish I had known Genesis when I was younger!
The Importance Of A Strong Start: Flexing On The New Year
Do you feel like you get off to a fast start? Are you out of the gates fast? Feel like you’re the head of the pack? Heading to achieve your goal at full speed? Or, are you a little slower coming out of the gate? Do you feel methodical in your approach, are you thoughtful of your pace and do you take your time when you get started? The thing is, there’s a difference between a quick start and a strong start and it doesn’t have to do with how quickly you launch out of the gates. JB’s take: “A quick start is, if you think back to when you were younger, there was that kid that would get a test and they’d start answering the questions on the test and they fly through the test. They want be the first one done, and they are fast, fast, fast – boom, test is done. They hand it in, and they didn’t read the instructions, they did the test completely wrong, they failed the test. That’s a quick start. A lot of times the big difference between a quick start and a strong start is a quick end where the student didn’t do too good. I was one of those quick starters when I was young (I swear I ended up fine). So what’s the difference between between a quick start and a strong start? You can have a strong start that is a quick start, and maybe that’s in some ways ideal in a lot of instances, but there is a big difference between coming out of the gate FAST vs just getting off quick. Strong start means starting off, with a clear vision and mission and action plan to get to where you need to go, right, so you can start strong whether you start quick or not. That confuses a lot of people because we feel like if we’re taking the time to do our due diligence, if we are putting some research into it and making sure that we know the direction we’re headed, that’s what leads to that strong start.” When we do these quick starts without doing any kind of prep, we just blindly walk into a situation and that kills a strong start a good amount of times, because then you start to see everything unravel in front of you and we know the challenge with sprinting out without necessarily thinking ahead and being thoughtful and deliberate. We’ve known it since we were kids when we were read or we read ourselves Aesop’s fables The Tortoise and The Hare. There’s a reason there’s a message behind that, and part of that message is just because you get off to a sprint doesn’t necessarily mean you’re going to win the race. A more current example – your best golfers out there, a lot of times, they don’t just drive for the green, they actually take a look at the course, they think about their stroke and they swing and they plan out where they’re going to hit the ball so that they can get the ball in the hole with less strokes, so it’s not just about quick… It’s strong.” If you find yourself getting off to fast starts, but not strong starts we want you to know we’re here to help you! We’ve got some words of encouragement, you’re not alone. We’re here for you, we’re here for you in our Facebook community group, we have a private exclusive community group launching soon you’ll want to be a part of. Our goal is to help you maintain and get into the Be RICH mindset. Rise To Mastery Inspire Greatness Celebrate Knowledge Help Others If you feel like you could use some more help with this, take a look at our Time Mastery Course. We have foundational pricing still available, with the course launching soon. If you’re struggling with some of the things we’ve talked about today and really strongly consider it, you don’t have somebody to hold you accountable to help you overcome your fear and get out of your comfort zone and get to a place where you can Face Everything And Rise then consider what we have to offer with our 2 on 1 coaching: Mastery With Science. This coaching is a unique way of taking practices that are proven by experience and backed by science and helping you adopt them to your unique self.” For more on our conversation, you can check out our entire podcast here: The Importance of a Strong Start: Flexing on the New Year ~ Episode 21