How To Become More Vulnerable
Vulnerability is shown to develop stronger relationships. Those of us that can practice vulnerability are able to overcome our bodies natural physiological response to the risk of opening ourselves up. Not only does it help develop our relationships with others, it allows us to strengthen the internal relationship we have with ourselves. In this blog we’ll explore some helpful tips that make us more comfortable with being vulnerable. Before we open up about vulnerability… did you know that 70% of businesses will fail? We put together a FREE guide identifying the Top 6 reasons businesses fail and give you actionable steps you can take on every one of these to make sure it’s your competition failing and not you! It’s our free gift to you. Access it here! Be Brave It might sound silly, but vulnerability requires us to be brave. We’re doing something that leaves us open to attack and judgement and that’s not easy. If you’re struggling to be vulnerable, find some small ways you can be brave. Take it one small step at a time and given some consistency you’ll see great progress towards overcoming the fear and anxiety that often come from being vulnerable. Be Selective If vulnerability is something you struggle with then there are some great people to be vulnerable with and there are…others. By being selective with whom we share our vulnerability with we can help protect ourselves from our primary concerns and anxiety. Finding someone who is already able to express their emotions, is non-judgmental, and simply listens is a great starting point for being vulnerable. Practice Self Awareness Vulnerability requires us to be able to express our emotions, yet for many of us, understanding our emotions isn’t easy. Practicing self-awareness and becoming more aware of your emotions is an essential requirement to successfully developing comfort with vulnerability. Take stock in your emotions when you feel yourself reacting. Remember, feelings are often describe with a single word such as: anxious, attacked, defensive, scared, courageous, happy, sad, etc. How do you get vulnerable? Let us know at info@jbandthedoctor.com Did you know we work with professionals and leaders with 2 on 1 coaching that marries the expertise of a Doctor of Psychology and mindset coach with the business savvy of a former Fortune 50 sales executive. We specialize in helping entrepreneurs and professionals like you master your time, sales, and confidence, to evolve you to your greatest potential. To learn more about our coaching you can contact us here! Feel like you need coaching but not sure you can afford the investment in yourself? That’s ok! We have a scholarship available to diverse candidates of need. You can apply for our scholarship for our coaching and our courses here. Not enough time in the day, we get it. Check out our AYOP course, 2x Your Time, right here. We walk through everything from time management and calendar basics to how you can supercharge your days weeks and months through practices and techniques that are grounded in experience and proven by science.
Maintain Momentum by Writing Down Your Why
Momentum is an incredible thing. It makes achieving our goals easy! Seriously, who struggles to do something they are excited and passionate about? Absolutely no one, that’s who! When we struggle is at the point that we lose our passion and excitement. When we get knocked off track, our momentum is halted and we have to force ourselves to continue. That’s when grit kicks in. Grit is great but we prefer not to have to rely on grit until we absolutely must. We’d rather maintain momentum. If you want to maintain momentum one of the best ideas is to write down your ‘why’ and have it in front of you. Before you grab your pen and paper… did you know that 70% of businesses will fail? We put together a FREE guide identifying the Top 6 reasons businesses fail and give you actionable steps you can take on every one of these to make sure it’s your competition failing and not you! It’s our free gift to you. Access it here! Why Write It Pen to paper remains one of the most effective ways for many of us to solidify something in memory. By writing down our why we’re forced not only to physically do something, but we also need to put thought into what we’re really trying to say. This practice forces us to really dig into our why and get to the true core of what’s important to us. What Having It in Front of You Does We’re going to lose steam. This is not an if, it’s a when. When we do, by having our ‘why’ immediately accessible and in front of us is going to be a trigger that brings us back to some of our original passion, excitement, and discomfort. All 3 of these emotions are great kick starters to taking action and regaining our momentum. It Creates Forced Perspective One of the most difficult challenges with goals is it can often feel like we’re not making progress. Having our why in front of us regularly forces us to take a look at what we’ve done. It drags our mind back through the work and the gains and the steps we have taken. In other words, it forces us to create perspective and get out of the mindset that we aren’t making progress. This is a powerful tool. Do you write down your ‘why’? Let us know at info@jbandthedoctor.com Did you know we work with professionals and leaders with 2 on 1 coaching that marries the expertise of a Doctor of Psychology and mindset coach with the business savvy of a former Fortune 50 sales executive. We specialize in helping entrepreneurs and professionals like you master your time, sales, and confidence, to evolve you to your greatest potential. To learn more about our coaching you can contact us here! Feel like you need coaching but not sure you can afford the investment in yourself? That’s ok! We have a scholarship available to diverse candidates of need. You can apply for our scholarship for our coaching and our courses here. Not enough time in the day, we get it. Check out our AYOP course, 2x Your Time, right here. We walk through everything from time management and calendar basics to how you can supercharge your days weeks and months through practices and techniques that are grounded in experience and proven by science.
How to Execute a Plan and Why it’s so Hard to do!
Big goals for 2023, am I right?! Most people don’t set small goals. After all, small goals don’t exactly feel like they will be life altering and exciting. Small goals certainly don’t equate to feeling like you won the lottery. When we develop big goals, the next step is to put a plan in place. Unfortunately, most people are terrible at executing on their plans and implementing them. In this blog we’ll share with you some tips on the best way to execute on a plan and why it’s so hard to do. 6 Methods To Make Sure Your Business Doesn’t Fail Before making any more plans, did you know that 70% of businesses will fail? We put together a FREE guide identifying the Top 6 reasons businesses fail and give you actionable steps you can take on every one of these to make sure it’s your competition failing and not you! It’s our free gift to you and you can access it right here. Why is it so hard to execute on a plan Consistency and default behaviors are why we struggle here. Most of us fail to be consistent and this is a top reason why we can’t execute on our plans. Life happens and our consistency goes out the door. What’s really happening here is we are reverting to our default behaviors. Our brains don’t ever forget our defaults. They stay in the back of our minds, lurking and waiting like some creeper. When we get off track it’s natural for our brains to trigger our default modes and behaviors. Just like that, our plan can get off track. Since this is totally natural and impossible to eliminate, it’s very difficult to execute on a plan. Plan Execution, Tip 1 Review the actions that will help you achieve your plan. The only way to manage to our brains defaults is to be aware of when we start to go back to our old modalities and behaviors. The best way to keep up our defense is to review and stay hyper aware of what we need to do to execute on our plan. This means, constant and, yes, consistent review of our days to make sure we are staying on track. A compass works a lot better if we use it every day instead of every few weeks or months! Plan Execution, Tip 2 Embrace the boring. Yes, you read that right. A lot of the time, plan execution requires us to focus on basic and repetitive tasks. While most of us don’t thrive on repeating the same things over and over again with excellence, time and again history has proven that those of us that work the basics the best are the most likely to execute on achieving our larger plans and goals. Are you a rockstar at executing on plans? Let us know at info@jbandthedoctor.com! Did you know we work with professionals and leaders with 2 on 1 coaching that marries the expertise of a Doctor of Psychology and mindset coach with the business savvy of a former Fortune 50 sales executive. We specialize in helping entrepreneurs and professionals like you master your time, sales, and confidence, to evolve you to your greatest potential. To learn more about our coaching you can contact us here! Feel like you need coaching but not sure you can afford the investment in yourself? That’s ok! We have a scholarship available to diverse candidates of need. You can apply for our scholarship for our coaching and our courses here. Not enough time in the day, we get it. Check out our AYOP course, 2x Your Time, right here. We walk through everything from time management and calendar basics to how you can supercharge your days weeks and months through practices and techniques that are grounded in experience and proven by science.
How To Say No
Do you struggle with saying no? It’s a common issue for many people. Especially if you are being asked by people you don’t want to disappoint! For those of you that can use some help let’s dive into a few ways you can improve on and learn how to say no! 6 Methods To Make Sure Your Business Doesn’t Fail Before we go into saying ‘no,’ did you know that 70% of businesses will fail? We put together a FREE guide identifying the Top 6 reasons businesses fail and give you actionable steps you can take on every one of these to make sure it’s your competition failing and not you! It’s our free gift to you and you can access it right here. Set Boundaries Up Front A great challenge with saying no is it feels like we’re rejecting someone else. One of the easiest ways to avoid this is to set boundaries early and up front. That way if you need to say ‘no,’ you have already communicated what your boundaries are and use those as a mutually understood reason. Don’t Try to Explain Saying no is hard. It can come with a need to explain as well. To get better at saying ‘no,’ do it quickly, cleanly and don’t try to explain. It usually is unnecessary. Keeping to a short and simple ‘no’ will make it easier than also trying to come up with an explanation. Ask For Time to Decide When someone asks you something you want to say ‘no’ to, we can often feel pressure to respond immediately. By changing your default response to ‘let me think about it,’ you give yourself the chance to really make a better decision and be thoughtful in your response. What are your tips for saying ‘no?’ Let us know in the lab! Join our community Did you know we work with professionals and leaders with 2 on 1 coaching that marries the expertise of a Doctor of Psychology and mindset coach with the business savvy of a former Fortune 50 sales executive. We specialize in helping entrepreneurs and professionals like you master your time, sales, and confidence, to evolve you to your greatest potential. To learn more about our coaching you can contact us here! Feel like you need coaching but not sure you can afford the investment in yourself? That’s ok! We have a scholarship available to diverse candidates of need. You can apply for our scholarship for our coaching and our courses here. Not enough time in the day, we get it. Check out our AYOP course, 2x Your Time, right here. We walk through everything from time management and calendar basics to how you can supercharge your days weeks and months through practices and techniques that are grounded in experience and proven by science.
3 Tips On How To Deal With Serious Adversity
Have you ever heard witnessed and remembered something, crystal clearly, and then have someone share their same experience with you only to find out that what they saw, heard and remembered was not the same as you? We all experience life differently and even when being in the same place for the same event we’re going to have different experiences. The same event, different perspective and a different truth. In this blog we’re going to give you 3 of the best tips to deal with serious adversity, and it starts with perception! 6 Methods To Make Sure Your Business Doesn’t Fail Before we pull back the curtain on adversity, did you know that 70% of businesses will fail? We put together a FREE guide identifying the Top 6 reasons businesses fail and give you actionable steps you can take on every one of these to make sure it’s your competition failing and not you! It’s our free gift to you and you can access it right here. 1. Be grateful for it We know it sounds nuts. It’s probably also very difficult to do in the moment but showing gratitude for adversity requires us to admit that there can be good that comes from this experience. It turns a challenge from something stopping us to something that will propel us forward even faster! Consider how someone you respect and admire would handle it OR how your best competitor would 2. Consider how someone you respect and admire would handle it OR how your best competitor would handle it Put yourselves in the shoes of someone you greatly admire, or someone who is phenomenal at what they do. How do you think they would respond to the adversity. Not only will this pull you away from personalizing the adversity too much, but it will also help you look through a different lens on how to respond to it. 3. Write down how you will grow from this It’s easy to react. It’s much harder to respond. Reactions are our immediate responses to a situation. They are reflex and they are typically emotional and protective in nature. Responses are measured, thoughtfully made decisions after we have a chance to process. Writing down how you will grow from serious adversity forces you to take a more measured approach and allows you to spend time processing through your emotions and the situation. Are you the type of person that could benefit from learning how to handle adversity better? Let us know in our private Facebook community, the EML! You can join here! Join our community Do you feel like you’ve been subject to serious adversity and would love to learn how to handle it better? Our unique 2 on 1 coaching marries the expertise of a Doctor of Psychology and mindset coach with the business savvy of a former Fortune 50 sales executive. We specialize in helping entrepreneurs and professionals like you master your time, sales, and confidence, to evolve you to your greatest potential. To learn more about our coaching you can contact us here! Feel like you need coaching but not sure you can afford the investment in yourself? That’s ok! We have a scholarship available to diverse candidates of need. You can apply for our scholarship for our coaching and our courses here. Not enough time in the day, we get it. Check out our AYOP course, 2x Your Time, right here. We walk through everything from time management and calendar basics to how you can supercharge your days weeks and months through practices and techniques that are grounded in experience and proven by science.
Managing to Results and Betrayal
You’ll hear coaches and sales leader say all the time to separate yourself from the results. In other words; it’s a numbers game, it’s not about you, don’t take it personally, you’re not being rejected only your offer is, remove yourself, distance yourself, etc and etc so on and so on. The personal saying I’ve used for many years is to ‘divorce’ yourself from the results. Truth bomb time. You cannot separate yourself from results, not completely, and you shouldn’t expect to be able to. Instead, you should manage to your results. Betrayal is the same. It’s something you can’t avoid. Sooner or later, you will take something personally and it will feel like a betrayal. If you’re not careful, betrayal can really sink your ship fast, and it’s why it’s so important to learn how to manage your results and betrayal. Before going any further, did you know that 70% of businesses will fail? We put together an absolutely FREE guide identifying the Top 6 reasons businesses fail and give you actionable steps you can take on every one of these to make sure it’s your competition failing and not you! It’s our gift to you absolutely free and you can access it right here. Betrayal was front and center in our podcast, The Entrepreneur Mastery Lab. In our most recent episode featuring Michael Buzinski betrayal came up and it was personal. Michael ended up shutting the doors of a multi-million-dollar company after experiencing epic level betrayal. Instead of letting it sink his ship, or more aptly, crash his plane, Buzz used it as inspiration to build a business more aligned with his values and his employees. Today he enjoys a thriving marketing business and is President and CMO of Buzzworthy Integrated Marketing. To hear more about how Buzz managed his emotions and the impact of betrayal you can listen in to our podcast here and don’t forget to like, subscribe, and give us a 5* review if you enjoy the episode! Why is it so important to manage our results and betrayal? Because we can’t ever separate ourselves from them. We can’t be emotionless when results aren’t what we want them to be. Every rejection is, to an extent, personal. It’s not like someone else is being rejected after all. This is your experience, and it is real. The old advice about divorcing yourself from the results? It’s not that it’s bad advice, we should be figuring out ways to handle negative results, it’s that it’s impossible. It is impossible to fully separate ourselves from negative results. If that is what you’re trying to do, it won’t get you to where you want to be. We need to manage our reaction to results. This is different than removing ourselves from the results. Think of results as data that we need to get better. Every failure, every rejection is an opportunity to learn and tweak what we are doing to achieve more success. As we love to say, it’s all just an experiment and failure is simply a result that we didn’t want or expect. By shifting our perspective here, we can start to manage to rejection. Rejection is something that we’ll still deal with, but we are going to start using tools that will make rejection more helpful. Your emotions will come into play here. Most people, when they experience poor results or rejection will deal with anxiety, imposter syndrome, fear, anger, frustration, and a whole lot of emotions we paint as ‘bad.’ Let’s get this straight. Emotions are neither bad nor good, they just are. We need to be able to acknowledge our emotions, allow ourselves to feel our emotions and then accept our emotions. In this way we can manage to our results and not try to remove ourselves from them. Again, removing ourselves from our results and emotions, that’s impossible. Managing to them is not! Back to betrayal. It will happen. We will feel betrayed. This is a result that nobody will ask for, but we will all experience. Betrayal and our response to it will determine whether we can step forward into our businesses or shrink away. If you experience betrayal, be like Buzz. Step up and out and use it as an inspiration to build something even greater and stronger. You’ll thank yourself later for it! If you’re struggling with your results, we can help. Our unique 2 on 1 coaching marries the expertise of a Doctor of Psychology and mindset coach with the business savvy of a former Fortune 50 external regional sales manager. We specialize in helping entrepreneurs and professionals like you master your time, sales, and confidence, to evolve you to your greatest potential. To learn more about our coaching you can contact us here! Feel like you need coaching but not sure you can afford the investment in yourself? That’s ok! We have a scholarship available to diverse candidates of need. You can apply for our scholarship for our coaching and our courses here. Not enough time in the day, we get it. Check out our AYOP course, 2x Your Time, right here. We walk through everything from time management and calendar basics to how you can supercharge your days weeks and months through practices and techniques that are grounded in experience and proven by science.